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  Bethel health insurance

  by roybatty in

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  question for any ex-bethelites....or anyone else who might know.. after serving (aka being slaves) at the brooklyn bethel my sister and brother in law are leaving because she is pregnant.

  im just curious about something.

  how long is it normally in such circumstances before a couple leaves?

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  Double Dee

  Okay guys, here is the long and the short of it:

  I got pregnant at Bethel. We were not compensated for any expenses etc. In the meeting with the Doctor at Bethel, we were told that we should leave asap since we wouldn't want me to still be there while I was showing my pregnancy since that could cause depression in the sisters there that want to have children. They pretty much said that we needed to be outta there within 3 months.

  They did not charge me for that doctor visit or the testing. But there was no severance package, ha ha ha!

  Dee
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  HAPPPYYYY BIRTHDAYYY KENT!

  by nelly136 in

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  and i'd just like to add ya .

  dont look a day over 60. big (((((smoochies))))).

  luv deb xxxx

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  Happy Birthday!!!!!! Got any fun plans for your Birthday???

  Dee
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  Ultimate JW Moron...or is that an oxymoron??

  by kevin221 in

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  things that make you go hmmm???.

  i guess it's a good thing my trip to greece has been postponed.. as i suspected jons' father is disputing his will.

  i'm not surprised, just irritated that i have to deal with this non person for one more day than neccesary.

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  {{{Kevin}}}

  I am so sorry that you are being confronted by that insensitive excuse for a human being!

  I just want to say that I am so glad to hear from you--keep in touch.....this is a wonder place, full of truly caring people.... imagine that!

  Love,
  Dee
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  Ignorant Elder Comments

  by El Kabong in

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  i don't know if this was discussed here before, but, what is the most ignorant comment you ever heard an elder say.

  i once had an elder say to me that my brother, who was at the time fighting in vietnam will be destroyed and killed over in 'nam because he did not accept "jehovah"!!!!

  i promptly told him to go "f" himself.

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  My heart goes out to you all......

  I have so many stupid elder comments that I could not list them all...... But, the one of the worst ones I have had someone say:

  My husband, who I just left for physical and mental abuse, contrived to get me to our house again. My mom drove me, my daughter came along because she wanted to see "Daddy". To make a very long story short, he ended up beating me up, my mother was thrown around by her hair and thrown to the ground, permanently injuring her knee, and all the while, had my 5 year old daughter in his other arm. (After all this, he locked himself in his truck and read the Bible to my daughter!) When we had the elders meeting about it, one of the brothers, after hearing the whole story, turned to my now ex and said, "Well, ****, that really was a lack of good judgement" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What!!!!!!!?????? Is that all it was???? That really was the theme-lets just water this down so that we all feel more comfortable!

  Another time, when my ex was stalking me, emotionally devastating my daughter etc, the elders came to find out why I was not attending meetings. I told them all that was going on, played a tape of a conversation that I had w/ the ex that was the most abusive and digusting thing you ever heard. Told them I was worried that the man, in good standing, would be allowed to continue to hurt our daughter because the elders were doing nothing. The one elder said, "Well, you do have to remember, Dee, that you were the one who married him in the first place, and you do have a responsiblility in this too". Wow, did I get hysterical---I asked if they really thought I was my fault that my elder and pioneer husband beat me? They couldn't back peddle fast enough before I threw them out of my apartment!
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  Email to my Dad on the UN / Prison Stories

  by msil in

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  ok......it has taken me lots of soul searching to put this post up (it contains some facts i dont really feel all that comfortable putting up).

  but i will try and leave out here for as long as i can.. it is an email i have sent to my dad.

  it is a followup - he has some of the info on the un already.

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  {{{msil}}}

  I am deeply touched by your trust in your friends here to speak out about some of the things that happened to you. What you said about the fear....fear of the tribulation starting, etc is so true. That is how the dubs keep the members awake. How frightening!

  It seems that of all the painful things that touch us, betrayal is the worst and the deepest cutting of of them all. I don't know you real well yet, but I am glad I have read your posts and am grateful that you are a survivor. I understand not wanting to be a hero, for my own reasons. So,please go on surviving and and keep sharing with those that love you and care for you. I will be thinking of you.

  Love,
  Dee
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  How Long???

  by Xena in

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  i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.

  that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.

  but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!

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  Xena,

  I have much in common with you. I tried to drift away.....fat chance with my parents! For about 6 years I was inactive and I had the same conversations with my daughter about not telling them (so we don't hurt them, etc.) things that she was doing or participating in. I had the same concerns about having her be under that pressure not to tell.

  But I will tell you, it was easier then than it is now that I am df'd. Now, they will not allow me to enter their house. They will not speak to me for any reason, unless it is an emergency. (I did manage to tell my dad about the UN--said I was shocked and wanted to know if anything had changed in the org that said that was ok and he actually talked to me! --oops I went on a tangeant (sp?)....) But as I was saying, their cutting me off is harder on my daughter than having to "not tell" some things about our life. When some of my family came to visit them, they invited my daughter to come over, but I was definately not welcome. That hurt her to not have me be be part of the fun.....if you can call it that.... but I dropped her off to visit, hiding my hurt from her. I felt more angry my family made sure that the family that was visiting was not home when we arrived so that I could not even see them at all. In fact, it was amazing that they even invited her since they hardly ever even call her to say hello anymore.

  So, go on as you are if you can, if that is what you feel is best. I can say that I feel much more free as a person being df'd. But I did hold out as long as I could so that my daughter would not be as affected until alittle older. Now she is 15 and has a much more mature outlook and she is able to understand it all alittle better. Don't feel like a bad mom for having your daughter not tell some things. Remember to look at the big picture.....you seem like a great mom and caring person to all here. Just stay the way you are, and things will fall into place.

  Love,
  Dee
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  WTSurvivors website is available again

  by Esmeralda in

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  hi gang,.

  because of the requests of my friends, i have decided to make the text of most of the previous essays on my website accessable again.. the format of the site is now very simple, text only for the most part.. thanks to everyone who encouraged me in my decision to take it apart.

  i've realized now that taking it down can't automatically erase my past, its something that i have to learn to exist with.. i'm still moving forward.. thanks to those who believe that my words merit reading.

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  Essie,

  I came across your site before I even came to this one. I just wanted you to know that, at a time when I really needed it, your site was very comforting to me--thanks so much!

  Love,
  Dee
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  Guess What - I am going to come clean!!!!!

  by TRUTH in

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  to who will listen:.

  until yesterday, i did not even know that this discussion group or anything like it existed.

  i really did not care.

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  (((TRUTH)))

  Sometimes I get to feeling sorry for myself for what I have been through, and then I come here to this site and see that some have had it so much worse and some have had it better. I can tell you that I find this site so comforting......please keep coming back.

  Thank you for sharing your pain, and your anger.......I really relate to the anger and the whole WT generations/Bethel connection. You are in the right place.......

  Hugs to you,
  Dee
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  What Do You Do?

  by hillary_step in

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  i link to this board a couple of times a day, sometimes in the early hours and there is always a flurry of activity, often from an enclave of veterans.

  i wonder, are you all in prison?

  i understand the pc's are allowed in some facilities.. do you all work?

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  Double Dee

  I am second in command at an Herbal company......

  My biggest goal in life is not to become a "Granola"......lol

  Dee
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  Christmas&Thanksgiving-Are you celebrating?

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  hi friends;.

  just wondering about this subject of holidays again.

  i really miss christmas but don't have enough nerve to celebrate it.

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  Double Dee

  This will be my 3rd Christmas with a Christmas tree. I have celebrated it for the last 3 years, only got df'd last year....funny enough, around Christmas time....but not for celebrating it!

  I absolutely love Christmas and Thanksgiving. Last year my love and I danced together on Christmas Eve in front of the tree to Christmas songs. It was so romantic and warm and the lights of the tree just made the room glow. I feel it is a time for all to show their love for one another and enjoy each other.

  As for Thanksgiving, I remember as a JW at home w/ parents, we did the same thing...had turkey and friends over, but not on thanksgiving.

  To me, it is just a whole lot of fun!

  Dee